The 38 Best Christian Dating Books on Our Reading List

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The editors at Lord’s Library have compiled this list of the best Christian dating books on our reading list.

Christian dating books can be a great resource for individuals looking to form meaningful relationships while also following God’s word. Whether you are looking for Bible-based advice on dating, marriage, how to move forward after a failed relationship or simply being single for a time, there is sure to be a title out there for you.

With this in mind, the editors at Lord’s Library have compiled this list of the best Christian dating books. The one that is right for you will largely depend on who you are, what your current situation is, where you are in your faith-building process, and what you seek in the future. Each listing includes author and publisher information, some basic facts about the version, and links to any alternative versions that may be available.

Note: We only included the best Christian dating books with a 4-star or better rating and a minimum of 25 reviews. Titles are organized by the total number of reviews at the time of our publication.

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The Best Christian Dating Books


The Man God Has For You: 7 traits to Help You Determine Your Life Partner

Author/Publisher: Stephan Labossiere

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “This is not another “how to get a man” guide. This book goes deeper to remove any excess baggage, as well as assess the ways you’ve gone about seeking the man who is for you. A compliment to GOD Where’s My Boaz, this dating and relationship book will help you prepare and position yourself to receive the man who is waiting to receive you. Don’t get caught up in a relationship with the man God never intended you to be with…read The Man God Has for You now and get ready to recognize and receive the right one.”

*Also available in Kindle and audiobook versions.

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The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

Author/Publisher: Timothy Keller

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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31 Prayers For My Future Husband: Preparing My Heart for Marriage by Praying for Him

Author/Publisher: Jennifer and Aaron Smith

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “The purpose of 31 Prayers For My Future Husband is to be a starting place and guide to help you begin your lifelong journey of praying for your future husband and marriage and our hope and prayer for you is that prayer becomes a natural and habitual part of your life and future marriage. Additionally, at the end of 31 Prayers For My Future Husband, we have crafted some extraordinary and very powerful wedding vows for you to use as a template to create your own special wedding vows, or you can use them as they are on your wedding day. You don’t need to wait until after you’re married to start praying for your husband. Start praying for your future husband today!”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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#Staymarried: A Couples Devotional: 30-Minute Weekly Devotions to Grow In Faith And Joy from I Do to Ever After

Author/Publisher: Michelle Peterson

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “I do” is only the beginning of a successful marriage. Filled with inspiring scripture and thought-provoking questions, #Staymarried: A Couple’s Devotional helps engaged and married couples strengthen their relationship with each other and God―in only 30 minutes a week. You and your spouse will learn to connect meaningfully and communicate honestly over the course of 52 couples devotionals.”

*Also available in Kindle and MP3 CD versions.

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God Where Is My Boaz? A woman’s guide to understanding what’s hindering her from receiving the love and man she deserves

Author/Publisher: Stephan Labossiere

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “God Where Is My Boaz? is your guide to preparing to receive the love and man you desire. This book will help you gain much more clarity on what has and is stopping you from experiencing an amazing relationship with a great man, receive practical and spiritual guidance to becoming the woman God created you to be, and feel empowered, encouraged, and gain tools to establish healthy relationships with a foundation in God.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why?

Author/Publisher: Gary Thomas

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy? In The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even before you walk down the aisle. As Gary reminds us, a good marriage is not something you find—it’s something you make.”

*Also available in Kindle and audio CD versions.

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52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide for Praying, Playing, and Staying Together

Author/Publisher: Randy Southern

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “52 Uncommon Dates is more than a book. . . it’s an experience! Each date will set the scene for you and walk you through making it happen. Learn how to practically speak each other’s love language, incorporate prayer in ways that are natural and relevant to real life, and finish strong with questions that help keep conversation alive. You can even dig deeper to discover Bible passages that fit the theme of each date. Ignite prayerful and playful connections in ways that deepen the relational, physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of your relationship, one date at a time.”

*Also available in Kindle and audio CD versions.

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Together With Christ: A Dating Couples Devotional: 52 Devotions and Bible Studies to Nurture Your Relationship

Author/Publisher: Chelsea Damon

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Lay the foundation for a lifetime of love, faith, and understanding with curated Bible passages for navigating the ups and downs of dating. This couple’s devotional features one devotion for each week of the year to inspire discussion between you and your partner and renew your bond with each other and God.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

 

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Love That Lasts: How We Discovered God’s Better Way for Love, Dating, Marriage, and Sex

Author/Publisher: Jefferson Bethke

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “In Love That Lasts, New York Times bestselling author of Jesus > Religion Jefferson Bethke and his wife, Alyssa, expose the distorted views of love that permeate our culture and damage our hearts, minds, and souls. Drawing from Jeff’s “prodigal son” personal history and from Alyssa’s “True Love Waits” experience, the Bethkes point to a third and better way. Blending personal storytelling with biblical teaching, they offer readers an inspiring, realistic vision of love, dating, marriage, and sex.”

 

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The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

Author/Publisher: Matt Chandler

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “The Song of Solomon offers strikingly candid—and timeless—insights on romance, dating, marriage, and sex. We need it. Because emotions rise and fall with a single glance, touch, kiss, or word. And we are inundated with songs, movies, and advice that contradicts God’s design for love and intimacy. Matt Chandler helps navigate these issues for both singles and marrieds by revealing the process Solomon himself followed: Attraction, Courtship, Marriage … even Arguing. The Mingling of Souls will forever change how you view and approach love.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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Devotions For Dating Couples: Building A Foundation For Spiritual Intimacy

Author/Publisher: Ben Young and Samuel Adams

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “This dynamic book will help you discover how to make your most important love relationships–with God and your potential mate–strong, lasting, and radiant. Relationship experts Ben Young and Samuel Adams, authors of The Ten Commandments of Dating and The One, give user-friendly tips for nurturing your personal walk with God and enhancing your spiritual connection as a couple.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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131 Creative Conversations For Couples: Christ-honoring questions to deepen your relationship, grow your friendship, and kindle romance

Author/Publisher: Jed Jurchenko

Material: Hardcover

From the publisher: “These fun relationship questions will help you grow. They are for couples who long to level-up their relationship and include fun, creative, and deep conversation starters. Some relationship questions are purely fun and liven up the mood. Other conversation starters encourage you to dream about the future. There are also spiritual questions to help you grow your faith.”

*Also available in paperback and Kindle versions.

 

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Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed

Author/Publisher: Jonathan Pokluda

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Jonathan “JP” Pokluda has counseled thousands of young singles through the pain and heartbreak of dating the world’s way. Now he wants to dispel the myths, misconceptions, and fairy tales you’ve believed about dating and replace them with the truth from the One who invented marriage, created you to crave relationship, and is the very embodiment of true love. With plenty of true stories about relationships healed and love found, this practical book explains God’s purposes for singleness, dating, and marriage and covers why you should date, who you should date, and how you should date.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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101 Conversation Starters for Couples

Author/Publisher: Gary Chapman and Ramon Presson

Material: Hardcover

From the publisher: “Your spouse is a treasure trove of meaningful, humorous, and profound experiences, thoughts, memories, dreams and beliefs. These 101 questions celebrate the depth and wonderful mystery of your mate. So have fun, get to know your spouse and watch intimacy grow in your marriage. Marriage and family experts Gary Chapman author of The 5 Love Languages and Ramon Presson bring you 101 questions to facilitate this process.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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When God Writes Your Love Story (Expanded Edition): The Ultimate Guide to Guy/Girl Relationships

Author/Publisher: Eric Ludy and Leslie Ludy

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “In their most popular book, bestselling authors Eric and Leslie Ludy challenge singles to take a fresh approach to relationships in a culture where love has been replaced by cheap sensual passion. When God Writes Your Love Story shows that God’s way to true love brings fulfillment and romance in its purest, richest, and most satisfying form. This new edition includes an extra chapter from Leslie Ludy about the surprises of life after marriage!”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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Waiting and Dating: A Sensible Guide to a Fulfilling Love Relationship

Author/Publisher: Stan Jones and Brenna Jones

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Dr. Myles Munroe is an internationally acclaimed teacher and conference speaker with several best-selling books to his credit. In Waiting and Dating, Dr. Munroe offers a balanced, biblical view for every believer who wants a prosperous and fulfilling marriage relationship. He offers some of the best advice you will ever find on the subject of finding the one with whom you will spend the rest of your life.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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Lord, Prepare Me to Be a Godly Wife

Author/Publisher: Tiffany Langford

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “If you are a single woman with a desire to grow in your walk with God and prepare for your future husband, this is the book for you. If you are a married woman with a desire to grow in your role as a godly wife, you will also be ministered to through this devotional. This book is designed to encourage you during your season of singleness, teach you how to adequately prepare for marriage, and address the issues hindering you from becoming a godly wife.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating

Author/Publisher: Marshall Segal

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Many of you grew up assuming that marriage would meet all of your needs and unlock God’s purposes for you. But God has far more planned for you than your future marriage. Not Yet Married is not about waiting quietly in the corner of the world for God to bring you “the one,” but about inspiring you to live and date for more now. If you follow Jesus, the search for a spouse is no longer a pursuit of the perfect person, but a pursuit of more of God. This book was written to help you find real hope, happiness, and purpose in your not-yet-married life.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ’s Control

Author/Publisher: Elisabeth Elliot

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “In her classic book, Elisabeth Elliot candidly shares her love story with Jim Elliot through letters, diary entries, and memories. She is honest about the temptations, difficulties, victories, and sacrifices of two young people whose commitment to Christ took priority over their love for each other. These revealing personal glimpses, combined with relevant biblical teaching, will remind readers that only by putting their human passion and desire through His fire can God purify their love.”

*Also available in Kindle and audio CD versions.

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The Love, Joy, Peace Workbook: A Couples Bible Study

Author/Publisher: Kim Bowen

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Marriage is a loving commitment we make to our spouses―and to God. The Love, Joy, Peace Workbook: A Couples Bible Study teaches you to strengthen your bond through communication, care, and the study of God’s Word. This inspirational, interactive couples Bible study created by a licensed marriage counselor will help you grow in love, faith, and happiness. If you’re seeking couples Bible study to grow your faith and bond with your spouse, look no further than The Love, Joy, Peace Workbook.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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A Young Woman’s Guide to Making Right Choices: Your Life, God’s Way

Author/Publisher: Elizabeth George

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Bible teacher Elizabeth George takes teens through the step-by-step process of making decisions that are life-affirming, godly, and wise. Teens will discover checkpoints to use as guides for making decisions, and they will learn to take the long view when considering consequences. Young women will also realize the tremendous wisdom, guidance, and answers available in God’s Word. Great for individuals, small groups, and mentoring.

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A Young Man’s Guide to Making Right Choices: Your Life God’s Way

Author/Publisher: Jim George

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Guiding a boy toward making right choices will equip him to think carefully about his decisions, assuring a more fulfilling and successful life. In this book, Jim George focuses on all the high points of a young man’s life―the things that matter most. Young men will enjoy Jim’s balance of biblical insight, personal anecdotes, and candid forthrightness. And they’ll gain the skills they need for making right choices in response to all the challenges that come their way.”

 

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131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

Author/Publisher: Jed Jurchenko

Material: Hardcover

From the publisher: “These Christian dating questions are for couples who want to defy the odds by building a strong foundation before marriage. They will help you foster a sense of intimacy (or into-me-see) by exploring your partner’s inner world. Get ready to dive deep without the R-rated questions, questions that cause you to blush, or conversations starters that stay at a surface level. This aim of couples questions book is to be both helpful and wholesome.”

*Also available in paperback and Kindle versions.

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Christian Sex Ed: Everything You Need To Know About Sex and Purity

Author/Publisher: Dane Fragger

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “According to a survey of two thousand Christians done by Christian Sex Ed. Ministries, 91 percent believe that the community of faith doesn’t talk enough about sexual purity. Christian Sex Ed is the answer to that problem. As you read through these pages, you will learn about sex in an educational, scientific, transparent, and–above all else–a biblical manner. Not only will you be educated about sex, but you will be equipped to walk in sexual purity.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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He Who Finds A Wife: A Man’s Guide to Finding the Woman and Love He Desires

Author/Publisher: Stephan Labossiere

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “From the author of the bestselling book “God, Where Is My Boaz” comes a book that will help men who truly desire love and a woman they can spend their life with. “He Who Finds A Wife” takes a practical and spiritual approach to guiding men on the path that will lead to their self-growth and an amazing relationship.

*Also available in Kindle version.

 

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Facing the Facts: The Truth about Sex and You (God’s Design for Sex)

Author/Publisher: Stan Jones and Brenna Jones

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Puberty marks the beginning of significant changes in a child’s relationships with parents and the opposite sex. It’s an exciting but often stressful time as a child transitions to adulthood. Facing the Facts gives children the information needed to understand exactly what’s happening to their bodies during the years ahead and why God planned it to happen just that way.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

 

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Holding Hands, Holding Hearts: Recovering a Biblical View of Christian Dating

Author/Publisher: Richard and Sharon Phillips

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “What does Scripture say about dating? Nothing—and everything! This book offers a biblical view of relationships but doesn’t shy away from discussing attraction, first dates, commitment and more elements that need to come together to make a successful relationship.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

 

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Talking Back to Purity Culture: Rediscovering Faithful Christian Sexuality

Author/Publisher: Rachel Welcher

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “In Talking Back to Purity Culture, Rachel Joy Welcher reviews the movement carefully, examining its teachings through the lens of Scripture. Compassionate, faithful, and wise, she charts a path forward for Christians in the ongoing debates about sexuality―one that rejects legalism and license alike, steering us back instead to the good news of Jesus. It’s time to talk back to purity culture―and this book is ready to jump-start the conversation.”

*Also available in Kindle and audiobook versions.

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The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness: Loved, Secure, Guided

Author/Publisher: Mark Ballenger

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness covers a wide range of common questions Christians singles often have. Why am I still single? Is God calling me to a life of singleness? How can I use this season for God’s glory? Is God punishing me with singleness because of my past sins? How can I find a godly spouse? This book is divided into four sections which cover the common phases of Christian singleness. It has 30 short chapters, each with three reflection questions meant for small group Bible studies or individual use.”

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The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

Author/Publisher: Stephen Casper

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “This book is not meant as a be-all end-all solution to dating, relationships, and marriage as the Bible gives considerable freedom with how to approach them in a godly manner. Instead, it is written in the style of Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Study the Scriptures, pray, use wisdom and discernment, and get additional godly counsel as you develop into a godly man who chooses the path of relationships and marriage.”

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Whatever Is…: A Couple’s Devotional for Christian Dating in a Secular World

Author/Publisher: Ryan Vet

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “It can be difficult as young couples pursuing a pure, godly dating relationship, to stay on track and keep Christ central. This devotional, based off of the passage Philippians 4:8 takes young dating couples on an 8-week journey to grow closer to God independently as well as grow closer to one another. This book can be used as a tool to strengthen, challenge and help grow young couples in their relationships.”

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Love & Sex: A Christian Guide to Healthy Intimacy

Author/Publisher: Nancy Houston

Material: Hardcover

From the publisher: “In Love & Sex, Nancy Houston provides a compassionate view of human sexuality. Through the lens of Scripture, she unpacks the good God intended when He created humans as sexual creatures, while recognizing that many people haven’t experienced sex in a positive way. You won’t find a critical examination of dos and don’ts, but stories of redemption, grace, and hope.”

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Waiting with God: Experiencing the Beauty of Singleness

Author/Publisher: Kelsey Rygh

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “After spending her 20s and 30s navigating the waters of singleness, Kelsey shares her heart-felt message from a place of waiting with God. The pages beckon you into the grander narrative where hope is rediscovered in the tension of desires yet to be fulfilled. Your heart will be awakened in a deeper way knowing you’re not waiting around for your relationship status or life to change, you’re waiting with God.”

*Also available in Kindle version.

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Christian Dating in a Godless World

Author/Publisher: T.G. Morrow

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “In these pages, Fr. Thomas Morrow, author of the best-selling book, Overcoming Sinful Anger, offers a practical guide to dating in a secular world. He explores a range of dating issues including choosing Mr. or Miss Right, the four meanings of love, how to have a warm but chaste relationship, the goodness of affection, modesty, restoring the dignity of women, and how to overcome the most common problems with communication.”

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The Christian Woman’s Guide to Dating: Advice on Keeping the Faith While Looking for Love

Author/Publisher: Selina Almodovar

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “Today’s dating scene can be hard to navigate―and may even require a leap of faith. Move forward confidently with The Christian Woman’s Guide to Dating, an inspiring handbook for finding and sustaining a lasting relationship. Whether you’re new to dating or recovering from heartache, invite God on the journey―and let Him lead you to a better way to love. Chart a course through every aspect of dating with God’s guidance, from using faith to set your intentions to leaning on Him for support when relationships end.”

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The Perfect Match: Finding the ONE you were made for

Author/Publisher: Wes Raley

Material: Hardcover

From the publisher: “Many people easily believe that God has a plan for their lives but are plagued by the fear that He doesn’t have a plan for their spouse. If God is sovereign and has a plan for your life, how should you live on the way to finding your spouse? And is there anything you should be doing right now to make sure you follow His plan? Wes Raley is the author of four books about God’s will for your life and relationships.”

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Pure Love, Pure Life: Exploring God’s Heart on Purity

Author/Publisher: Elsa Colopy

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “With honest advice, real-life examples, and tools to navigate the temptations and frustrations you face every day (including dealing with those who don’t respect your boundaries), Pure Love, Pure Life meets you where you are—wherever you are—to illustrate why living the pure life isn’t as constricting as it sounds, and how it’s worth the effort.”

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Becoming Mr. Right: A Young Man’s Guide to God-Honoring Relationships

Author/Publisher: Michael Daniels

Material: Paperback

From the publisher: “This book provides a clear roadmap for young men as the pursue God-honoring relationships. You will learn how to apply Scripture to the important issues in life, and realize the goal of Matthew 6:33: “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

 

 

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